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Mirzapur - Article - Divorce
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I do not understand what has come of our society today, in particular some of
our new generation. Words like Patience, Tolerance and Duty do not seem to appear
in their dictionary. The younger generation are becoming more educated, and well
capable of earning their living. The society is producing professionals in many
skills, yet the main demon in Divorce is sometimes Money.
Maybe this is why they do not feel the need of each other. They roam around
together for quite a long time before marriage. They go through Holy wedlock
and enjoy an exclusive honeymoon abroad, but just before settling down together
as husband and wife, comes a blow. Problems start with very small things and take
up a dangerous form, putting the families of both sides between demon and a deep
blue sea, a costly exercise and a worrying situation.
Sometimes the marriage lasts until they have one or even two children and then
they come up with the disgusting thought of splitting. Their point of argument
is of no base. None of the two are prepared to accept their duty or fault. Arguments
are usually of duty, a responsibility which one or both of them are not performing.
Together with them, the parents of both go through a very rough and heartbreaking
time, and the ones to suffer the worst for the rest of their life are the children
who lose one or both of the parents before they even come to understand the need of
parents.
Imagine a life without a mother or father. Death of one or both parents is accepted
but having the parents yet not being with them is hard to accept. The child would
always ask themselves why do I not have my mother or why do I not have my father with
me. They are surrounded by arguments and worries at such a tender age. Today, we live
in a democratic society where everyone is free to enjoy life to the fullest, but people
do not understand the meaning of democracy. Although it may not be easy to put into
action, freedom should be given only to those who can digest it; otherwise it becomes
poison and kills humanity within one.
Everybody wants money, a luxury home, a posh car, and a lavish life, but nobody wants
responsibility. Not even to cook, wash and clean for themselves and their family.
They do not even want to raise their own children. The children feel bewildered and insecure.
This deadly disease is fast spreading in our community, which at one stage was considered
a very patient and pleasant society. The younger generation, well I should say not very
young but mid to late thirties and mid to late twenties are going through this phase in
greater ratio. In most cases their children are grown up to understand the differences
arising in their parent's lives, the routine quarrels and arguments arising out of their
duties not being performed by both or one of them.
To avoid pains and sufferings of divorce, please control your anger, be patient and tolerant,
come out of your ego, think of your duty to your home, family and employment.
Velji Manji Hirani, Mirzapur (July 2006) |
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